Loving ourselves is often the hardest thing of all, yet we can’t really love anyone else until we do. How can we give what we don’t have?
See the February newsletter for more on this at http://lists.webvalence.com/sites/NotesFromNancy/
Come and share: how do you treat yourself poorly and refuse to love yourself?
Are you willing to love yourself? What’s difficult about it?
What would you do differently if you truly loved yourself?
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If I truly loved myself I would consider my
T R U E feelings when I made decisions and allow myself say yes or no depending.
Often, thru habit/programming/needing to be “loved and wonderful”, I jump in to rescue right away when I really don’t want to. This does not allow other people to get the results of their life decisions and may actually be unkind (to me AND them) because then they go on to make other decisions based on the ever provided safety net I provide.
I have someone very special in my life. I sometimes find it hard to believe that I found someone with such loving and giving qualities…someone so emotionally sensitive and caring. It is interesting, tho, that I sometimes waver in my conviction that he is “the one.” But then I waver in my own conviction that I am special. Deep down I do know that he is the guy on my vision board!
Jocelyn
jocelyn:
Who is “the one?” Often the parts of the other we love are the disowned parts of ourselves – so are the parts we don’t like…
At some point we realize we can only take in as much love as we are willing to grant ourselves. We need to realize we’re not deserving of love because we’re worthy or special. We’re deserving of love because we exist.
Cris:
We look for the love of others that we don’t give ourselves. The more we give ourselves the less we need the love of others yet the more we appreciate it… WE stop trying to buy love and allow those who love us to love us without strings and those who don’t not to…
“Attention is the currency of love; when we love something or someone, we give it our attention. ”
What are you giving your attention to?
How do you love yourself?
How else could you love yourself?
WOW…..I never thought about this. I can honestly say I do not love
myself, and I am going to change!
I am always giving all my love to everyone around me, I forgot how to love myself, maybe I never knew how to love myself.
I have a lot to think about this weekend.
Thanks for sharing.
I’ve seen people’s lives completely change when they do this!!!
“Just the act of taking the time to be still to listen to yourself is an act of love – to yourself. You cannot be whole unless you love yourself. Listening to yourself, listening to your spirit and what it wants is loving yourself. “
~ Michael Cavallaro, author of The 55 Concepts